Between Distance and Desire

Reflections and Updates During COVID

Greetings gentlemen,

I sincerely hope you are happy, healthy, and safe wherever you might be reading this.

I imagine it may be some time before I see many of your beautiful, smiling faces again. While that saddens me deeply, I completely understand and respect your decision if you’ve chosen to self-isolate. Truly, I admire the care and responsibility so many of you are showing; the willingness to make personal sacrifices to protect those who are most vulnerable in our community. It’s acts like these that remind me how fortunate I am to know such thoughtful, compassionate men. You restore my faith in humanity time and time again. I will miss you dearly, but please know that I’ll be waiting with open arms and an eager heart when the world feels safer again.

For those of you who may still be uncertain about whether you feel comfortable making a booking during such unpredictable times, I wanted to share a gentle update regarding my movements. Please know that I’m not trying to persuade you one way or the other. You are all adults and more than capable of weighing the risks and benefits for yourselves. I could not in good conscience ask anyone to compromise their wellbeing for the promise of temporary pleasure. This update is offered purely in the spirit of transparency and duty of care, because I believe you deserve honesty and clarity, especially when the world feels so fast-moving. For now, these are the most recent developments in Jasmine’s world…

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At this stage, I am still taking bookings (bear in mind, this could change without warning, given the fluidity of the situation). However, I’m choosing to spend time only with gentlemen I already know and trust well. These are men with whom I’ve built genuine rapport over time; people I feel confident will communicate openly and responsibly. Before each booking, I’ll be asking a few additional screening questions regarding recent travel, symptoms, large gatherings, or known exposure to the virus. Of course, no screening can offer absolute certainty, which is why I also kindly ask that you notify me if any concerning symptoms develop after a booking. I will extend you the same courtesy. Knowledge is power, and thoughtful communication allows us to protect one another as best we can.

I’ve always kept my workload intentionally light, but for the wellbeing of both myself and my beloved clients, I’ll be reducing it even further. I’ll continue to be available on Mondays and Fridays only, with strict limits in place. Once capacity is reached, there will be no exceptions, so booking in advance will be essential.

On Mondays, I’ll welcome one or two gentlemen, then spend the remainder of the day quietly at home, studying, resting, and perhaps doing a little writing to stay connected with my dear clients who may be tucked away in quarantine. Fridays will be similar, allowing me to see one or two clients once more. My hope is that by keeping my circle small and intentional, overall exposure remains minimal.

I’ll also be implementing a one-hour minimum booking, prioritising quality over quantity. On my non-working days, you’ll find me happily cocooned at home: studying, spring-cleaning, dancing around my living room, spending time with my dog, and catching up on a book or two. No crowds, no errands, no social gatherings... just me, myself, and my favourite pyjamas. An introvert’s paradise.

Hygiene has always been important to me, and I’ll be maintaining additional measures for everyone’s peace of mind. If you prefer to refrain from kissing during our time together, I completely understand and will never take offence, though for those who enjoy it, affectionate closeness remains available. My intention is simply to keep my world small, mindful, and gently protected.

Many of you know that I also work part-time in the medical field. Interestingly, my workplace faced reduced hours rather than increased demand, and after much reflection, I chose to take a leave of absence. While I deeply value contributing where I can, I’m grateful to have the flexibility to step back and allow those shifts to go to colleagues who need them more urgently. Some of my hardworking co-workers suddenly found themselves supporting entire households after their partners lost work, and it felt right to make space for them. It wasn’t an easy decision, but one guided by care for my family, my clients, and my community.

I also want to extend heartfelt thanks to those of you who have already shown such kindness, loyalty, and encouragement during this time. Whether it’s checking in, offering support, listening when I need to vent, or even offering a toilet roll or two. Your presence reminds me how deeply I value these connections. When we share the weight of uncertainty together, none of us carry it alone.

Although these are challenging times, I’m determined to offer you a small refuge from the noise and uncertainty. Let me help soften the tension in your shoulders. Let me be a moment of calm in a restless world. Sometimes we all need permission to pause, breathe, and remember what it feels like to be held in warmth and presence. Passion, connection, and tenderness can be powerful antidotes to fear and fatigue.

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As a society, it’s important that we care for the immunocompromised, practise good hygiene, and limit unnecessary interactions wherever possible. I respect these principles deeply. And yet, I’m not quite ready for absolute distance. For me, human connection is vital. Intimacy is part of how I feel grounded, alive, and whole. So I’ve chosen moderation: gentle, mindful connection, held responsibly and with intention. Most importantly, I will always respect choices that differ from my own. Whether we are held in each other’s arms or simply in each other’s thoughts, I believe we will navigate this chapter together, with patience, compassion, and hope.

Love always,

Jasmine x